No one really prepares you for life after college

There’s some philosophy that says that you must first attain your basic needs before going after other, higher needs. You need those basic needs to have, like, a basic level of happiness. Once you attain those needs and that happiness, then you can move on to bigger things and making others happy. But it’s imperative to focus on yourself and your happiness. This is important in middle school, high school, and college, but I think it’s a little easier if you’re still in school. Because when you’re in school, your primary goal is to graduate. After you graduate… there is no “primary” goal. That’s where it gets tricky when you try to start planning your happiness.

I learned this over the last couple of months (as you can probably deduce from my blog posts this summer). But I want to write about how cool it is once you do attain those basic needs and you can create steps to move forward in your life/career/dreams. Plus, making time and energy to make others happy is great too.

I’m excited to grocery shop for myself, specifically purchasing foods for breakfast and snacks. I’m excited to pack my lunch (note: I’m not excited to cook it). I’m excited to write more, as a mode of expression. I’m excited to grow professionally, creating my own organization system and trying new things. I’m excited to grow my work. I’m looking forward to being happy…

The immediate months and the year after you graduate are going to be really really weird. My professor told me that during my senior year so I knew this was coming, but I didn’t know exactly WHAT I was in for. Heads up, peeps—TRANSITIONING into adulthood is CHALLENGING. I’m waiting for the truly happy part. It’s like starting over. For 18 years, your primary goal is to graduate and now you have to start from the ground up. At least you’re not starting from absolute scratch ‘cause now you got an important piece of paper that tells you you’ve achieved and that you’re capable. But here you are… wondering what’s going to happen in three months, let alone in five years.

This is a little all over the place, I know. But that reflects me, right now. A little all over the place. A little happy, a little tired, a little frustrated, a little excited, a little confused.

But I’m looking forward to growing. That’s the final take away. Growing.


Note to Self: Listen to Avenue Q

Three Things Sophomore Year Taught Me

When I started this blog back in March, I intended to update it at least every week. I forgot that Spring Quarter is the busiest, most hectic quarter of the year so that goal was clearly not met. Whomp. After 11 weeks of applications, interviews, papers, exams, the last math class I will ever have to take (woo hoo!), culture shows, event-planning, and overall college, I am again recapping my quarter (and my sophomore year as a whole).

This year was definitely a challenge to say the least. Now, I understand what people meant when they said to freshman-me that they missed freshman year: The further you get into college (and life, I suppose!), the more you begin to understand what you want to spend your time doing and you actually do that thing(s) and you get busier and the classes become more specialized and harder. For me, sophomore year was a real learning experience because I realized a lot of things about myself, people, and life. I learned a lot of things in the past 33 weeks, but here are three of the most important:

  1.  Step Up – I started the year applying for a job I really really really wanted even though it felt kind of like why would they hire me, I’m just a lowly sophomore. I was nervous, of course, but I got the job and it is the very reason why my year was so much fun, busy, and stressful. Throughout the year, I faced all kinds of projects that called for me to not only put my best foot forward but to also step up and embrace the fact that I was scared of what came next. Sure stepping up as a leader means more responsibility and more stress, but it also means the pay-off is that much greater. At the end of the day, I can’t say that I regret any of my all-nighters or hard conversations that had to happen because I decided I didn’t just want to sit and watch things happen. I wanted to make things happen.
  2. Patience – Patience truly is a virtue. And it’s hard sometimes. Stepping up a lot of the times also meant delegating tasks to people or working with people and sometimes people don’t exactly know what you mean or they don’t do the job how you would like it done or any number of things! It’s frustrating and time-consuming to collaborate, but I learned to just take a deep breath and be patient. No matter how many times I would go back to my dorm room and rant to my roommate about how annoying people could be, I know that people do the best that they can do. You can’t control people. You have to trust them.
  3. You Never Know What You’re Going to Get – Seriously, this year was full of so many surprises and 180s, I could barely keep my thoughts together some days. One day in March, I got onto a conference call with a co-worker and a boss knowing exactly what I was doing for a job this summer. After the conference call, it was like those summer plans went through a paper-shredder. I had no idea that with just one phone call my job could become jeopardized. I was lost for about a week then I figured it out—and as it turns out, that call led me to apply for and get a great internship for the summer! As my dad would say, you just have to be like water (Bruce Lee) and be flexible. ADDITIONALLY, people can and will surprise you, too. You never know who’s going to step up into your life, but when they do, you better hold onto them! 🙂

I was talking to a friend one night (as we scrambled to put together an end-of-the-year slideshow and movie) reminiscing on the year when I thought back to my freshman year. I thought about how I was a major dork without a clue, just finding my niche at SCU. Then I thought about this year and how much I’ve grown as a student, as a leader, and as a person. It kind of blew my mind how just one year could give me so much. Those three lessons I listed above really impacted me and I hope that I never forget their value. (Though, I am still a major dork hahah.)

I could go on and on and on about all my experiences this year as a student, MCC PR, ASM, and nineteen-year-old, but that would take too long. Not many people read this, but thank you to everyone who helped me along the way this year. I really appreciate the time my friends and classmates put into their work and their relationships! It takes a lot to be a student (not to mention when you go to SCU and everyone is involved in about 246 extracurriculars). Sophomore year will be missed, but things will only get better!  Here’s to a summer full of opportunity (and blogs!) 🙂